PASTOR OLUWASEYI OSANYINBI
PROVERBS 18:22
“22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.”;
Many of us don’t like the truth, we ask for the leading of the Spirit but in our hearts, we have the idea of where we want him to lead us to, it shows we don’t trust him enough. Adam was busy working, he had something he was doing that’s why he needed a help suitable for him. You don’t need a future partner if you have no future. You have to know what God wants you to do so that you can find the right person for you.
I PETER 3:6:
“6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.”;
Sarah was a woman who initially put Abraham through a lot of trouble but along the line she came to learn obedience, obeying Abraham in all ways. The problem we have in the church today is that we have many pretty sisters but not many true daughters of Sarah; neither do we have brothers like Abraham. Marriage requires faith; it requires that we rejoice no matter what it turns out to be along the line. Our primary reason for marriage is not to make children, if you have children, good, and if not it’s all good, don’t allow yourself to be pressurized by family members. Marriage is primarily for companionship. Every of our actions have consequences; we have to be careful in our journey.
GENESIS 24:3
“3 And I will make thee swear by the Lord, the God of heaven, and the God of the earth, that thou shalt not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell:”;
GENESIS 27:1-3
“And it came to pass, that when Isaac was old, and his eyes were dim, so that he could not see, he called Esau his eldest son, and said unto him, My son: and he said unto him, Behold, here am I. 2 And he said, Behold now, I am old, I know not the day of my death: 3 Now therefore take, I pray thee, thy weapons, thy quiver and thy bow, and go out to the field, and take me some venison; ” 28:1-9
You cannot marry an unbeliever, it’s not acceptable in any way, there are no good unbelievers, none is better than a Zionite. We have to trust God to help us make the right choice in choosing the right partner. We should not be in a hurry to speak to every sister, we need to be calm. We need a sound mind to make the right decisions.
GENESIS 27:46
“46 And Rebekah said to Isaac, I am weary of my life because of the daughters of Heth: if Jacob take a wife of the daughters of Heth, such as these which are of the daughters of the land, what good shall my life do me?”
We should give ear to the advice of our parents, because their blessing matters a lot. Even if they are not right, we have to convince them wisely on order to get their blessings. Sisters should be sure that the brother proposing is truly a man, not a man that is still a baby. We need wisdom to deal with our wives because they can hinder our prayers, so men need deal with their wives with knowledge. We should never marry out of spite, maybe to marry based on showing others that you can marry a pretty sister. Brothers should not propose under the guise of spirituality, simply make your intentions known. The question is ‘will you marry me?’ and the sister has the right to either say ‘yes’ or ‘no’. We all should be careful where we seek counsel, it’s always better to seek counsel from matured individuals with experiences in making right choices. We should be accountable to the authorities over us; we should seek their counsel since they are responsible for us. We should learn to respect our parent’s opinion, because they have laboured a lot over us. However, the respect should not make us compromise or disobey God. When you marry a sister or a brother, you are marrying his/her whole family; you have to learn how to manage every member of the family. It will take knowledge to handle them. The basic thing to look out for in a sister/brother is the fear of the Lord. Anyone who does not fear the Lord is a disaster waiting to happen. The reason for sound mind is to make the right decisions; we need to be thoroughly transformed by the renewal of our minds.